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Boundaries are Important after Filing for Divorce

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If you’ve filed for divorce, you are going through a lot, and the last thing you want to think about is yet another task. The fact is, however, that by setting boundaries for yourself after your file can help make the entire divorce process go more smoothly and can help mitigate many of the ups and downs inherent to divorce. An experienced Charlotte attorney can help you find your best path forward, including helping you set important boundaries for yourself. If you are facing a divorce, contact an experienced Charlotte attorney today. 

Cut Back Where You Can

No matter how you parse it, divorce takes its toll on even the strongest among us. Divorce is exhausting and requires careful attention on your part. As such, it’s a great idea to cut back on your personal obligations where you can. Start with those things you do that bring you no joy and let go of any that you can. While some of your obligations are exactly that, and you are obliged to fulfill them, others are not, and there is no shame in walking away. 

House Rules

If your spouse is moving out of the family home, it’s important to set new boundaries and create a new normal. If he or she no longer lives in your home, your spouse obviously won’t be coming and going as if it were his or her home anymore. If you share children, however, you’ll want to create an atmosphere that allows for a comfortable middle ground – you don’t want your children’s other parent to wait outside the door uncomfortably when picking up the kids, for example. Having a clear schedule and sticking to it can help. 

If you are living together until the divorce is final, things can be even trickier. You’ll want to set boundaries that provide you both with space, but that also allows your house to continue to feel like your children’s loving home. 

In My Opinion

If you’re going through a divorce, your family, friends, and loved ones are naturally concerned and want to help. Often this comes in the form of unsolicited advice that is often based on someone else’s divorce. While it’s likely important for you to talk about what you’re going through, you shouldn’t worry about following anyone else’s advice – other than your experienced attorney’s. Try to remember that your loved ones are only trying to help and gently let them know that you have professional legal counsel on your side. If you simply can’t take the barrage of advice, it’s perfectly fine to stick up for yourself and firmly request that they stop offering their opinions.

Call A Charlotte Divorce Law Firm With Your Divorce Concerns

Divorce is never easy, but at Blood Law, PLLC, in Charlotte, family law is our focus, and we are committed to helping you throughout the divorce process. Our compassionate legal team is on your side with experienced guidance for your most pressing divorce concerns. We’re here to help, so please don’t hesitate to contact or call us at (704) 286-0570 today.